I'm with Zenna on this one. it feels wierd to pay for your sins with $. I wouldn't mind putting in some money each year to a box that can be used to help foster compassion in the community, but I don't think it should be payed out to people directly, it should be payed to maybe have people facilitate group meetings like the fairy rings.
I think the most important part is acknowledging when you have been wrong. I still remember I said something in a not very tone here in public about a ssb-server release that dominic did a very long time ago and that was really shitty to do. I still feel bad about it when I think back to it and I never think I told Dominic I was sorry for what I did. So yeah, more practice of saying sorry. I also think that these open spaces, like SSB is right now, might not be the right medium for these kind of things. This is why I'm very excited about tribes groups or whatever you want to call them. There is such an incredible difference between coding on SSB in "public" and doing it in the SSB grant where you talk to the other people regularly. Having calls, building up empathy etc.