@Tycho, You won't have to befriend the room (the Pubkey attached to the room doesn't actually send or receive any gossip). once the room shows up as online in your client list (in your app of choice after you've gone through the steps described on the home-page of my room) You should see other people (also connected to that room) that you can connect to:

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