thanks @kieran, yeah would be good to re-align.

I think we need to be wary of power, which is why I named it. I think your point about parents being generally systemically disempowered was really pertinent. I'm definitely coming from a place where I don't think flatness is the panacea - rather I think it's a useful challenge to un-conscious or abusive hierarchy. What I want to be more clear of is where is there power, and where is that good and consented, and where is it not.

The concrete case would be "do Mix / Peg / Dan have mandate to make plans without Kieran. If so, what sort of plans"

For those reading along Kieran and I are setting up a call to sync up