Things are going, that's for certain.
To be fair, the server that I have running nextcloud has 8 threads, 16GB ram, and uses SSD for the majority of storage right now so that could definitely be a key factor in our differing experiences. I especially am liking some of the "groupware" functionality that I'm using to organize the family and extended family members with calendars/groups/etc for getting folks on the same page.
I just got my SSB VM fixed up a few weeks ago, and I'm working on setting up with some friends a #git-ssb-web, hub, and proxy server on another box soon. Look forward to running into you around the #scuttleverse !