@ansuz
you're right about the dog whistle. I said something how ssb doesn't have central moderation tools, and how there is free speech here, and that went down like a sack of shit with someone from a marginalised group. This interactions of Mikey's help me understand why - I've not met this sort of trash and trash talk before, it's sickening.

I should think about how my feed impacts those around me, and be proactive about maintaining a comfortable space for those I'd like to associate with.

I love this phrasing. I think there's a thread in there I want to draw into the light.