I'd like to add a little bit of learning to this thread. I asked Laniyuk's advice about whether it's appropriate to e.g. offer to support Tonga by offering tools like scuttlebutt (concerns being that it feels better if there's existing relationships there, and not in a time of crisis, but that the crisis, e.g. cyclone can feel like an opportunity). Anyway, the learning was:

you may be assuming that there isn't already resiliance

There was also a point along the lines that marginalised or vulnerable communities already have (out of necessity) patterns of resiliance. I knew I was asking a naive question but was really grateful for my blind spot there to be brought into sharp focus