@rich um, sure i can give it a hoon!

so i like being in and amongst a crowd of humyns, i like the shared mass of energy, i think this is why i like to party.

when i got into partying, i was too anxious / shy to directly interact with other people at the party. so i took up dancing, because it was the socially acceptable way to be anti-social and ignore everybody. i got okay at dancing, too good at ignoring everyone, and practiced interacting with the total party energy. i still barely know how to directly interact with humyns at a party, i still find it overwhelming, but i'm learning.

as @dominic mentions in his "How To Party" post, a party is about having a good time. i like to have a good time playing with the party energy, to feed on the nearby party energy, to extrude party energy to nearby humyns.

for me with dancing, this means moving your body to the beat, moving in ways that feel good to you, letting go of your mind, matching the rhythms of the music with the rhythms of your body, giving zero fucks, and being a silly creature. beyond the standard boots and cats, one of my favorite dance moves is to spin, and recently i've discovered even more ways to move my body, such as crawling on the ground, climbing things, rolling around, acting like an animal, moving in any way you haven't tried before, generally just letting go more and more. and i'm starting to make sense of how to interact with others on a dance floor, giving and receiving friendly safe reassuring eye contact, mirroring their moves and being mirrored by them, moving closer and further, spinning from side to side, leading and following, and last weekend i stumbled into a wee play of contact improv.

on another note, lately i've been thinking about recognition. one of my favorite experiences at a party is when someone makes eye contact and says "hello", it feels so great to be welcomed by someone, to feel like you belong. and one of my least favorite experiences is when you see someone you know and you miss catching their eye, you never say hello, you never get that flash of connection to know if everything is okay. i'd like to improve in how i make it easier for others to share recognition with me, i know i'm not the only one with social anxiety, i know we generally all try our best.

moving back to my usual party expressions, i really like snugs. i really like physical contact with humyns i'm with, i love giving massages while i listen to someone talk about their feelings, i get so much comfort from squeezing someone's body. i have an active mind but it's quite slow to come up with any sense, so i prefer to touch and listen, sharing my feelings as they arise, sharing stories as the time calls. i think to snug well is to host a comfortable safe space, where people can be themselves amongst the puddle, where your touch responds to their feelings.