Nice insight into your patterns @mikey , thanks :)

I don't think there's anything wrong with transactions per se. I think it might be how they're implemented or something. I'm constantly trying to build trust relationships and my path there is normally gifting and seeing what happens. I've tried :

• A) buy a person lunch and tell them they're in social debt now
• B) buying a person lunch and telling them they can get the next one
• C) buying a person lunch and saying nothing

I think B is actually a good first step. It establishes an expectation of reciprocation in a loose way. I think running B a few times with some nice "who bought last time" confusion in the middle is a nice way to graduate to abundance thinking where everyone is gifting and it feels great.

I definitely track people for whom gifting is one way. (speaking of which, I want to buy the beer next week at Art~Hack). I don't think it's about the quantity so much as the quality of the transactions... I dunno I just made that up.